Alone doesn't mean I'm ready

After 22 years of marriage, I didn’t expect to find myself single, over 40, and emotionally supported by a 300-year-old vampire named Dimitri. But here we are.

Some women ease into solitude with yoga and green smoothies. I, on the other hand, escaped into books where the men are half-wolf, fully ripped, and declare their undying love in the most unhinged, possessive ways imaginable. It’s toxic, it’s dramatic, and honestly—it’s working for me.

Life in the Post-Partner Lane

Being single after so long isn’t tragic, it’s just daunting. There’s an entire adjustment phase where you realize you can eat crackers in bed and sleep diagonally.

Do I get lonely? Occasionally. But I also have fictional men with glowing eyes and questionable emotional maturity to keep me company. So… it balances out.

The Weekly Dating Challenge (No, Thanks)

Some of my single friends are thriving—and appear very enthusiastic about it. “You should date a new guy every week!” one said, as if that’s the logical next step after decades of marriage.

But here’s the thing: I’m not ready to get naked in front of someone new. Especially not someone I barely know and met over shared interests like “long walks” and “tacos.”

Right now, my comfort zone includes fleece pajamas, a good book, and not stressing over getting my legs waxed.

Embracing Solitude Like a Pro

Solitude isn’t sad—it’s sacred. It’s rediscovering who I am when no one’s watching. It’s making charcuterie boards for one, learning to flirt with myself in the mirror, and building a life that doesn’t need romantic validation.

Do I see dating in my future? Possibly. But it’s not urgent. Not when I’m busy healing, growing, and mentally living in a fantasy village guarded by immortal men who brood in the moonlight.

In Conclusion: I’m Good. Really.

I’m not avoiding dating because I’m bitter; I’m avoiding it because I need my peace, my books, and my bathrobe. I’ll come out when I’m ready.

Until then, pass the Bengali spice tea and bring on the werewolves.

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